
ASKING FOR A FRIEND
How do I stay calm in a world of instability?
ASKING FOR A FRIEND - QUESTION
How do you stay calm when the world feels like it's constantly on fire? It's one of those questions that sounds enormous but turns out to have some genuinely practical answers. In this Asking For A Friend session, host Andy Wright puts the question to Emma Keen, mental health expert, and Wez Hawes, industry leader, and between them they cover everything from choosing when you actually have the capacity to watch the news, to deliberately training your social media algorithm with funny cat videos so it stops serving you doom at 10pm. Emma brings the clinical clarity, Wez brings the lived-in honesty, and together they make a compelling case that calm isn't something that just happens to you. It's something you can build, one small intentional choice at a time.
None of us are feeling particularly calm right now. The world is unpredictable, the news is relentless, and social media keeps serving up more of whatever you were already anxious about. So what can you actually do?
This question was answered by Emma Keen, mental health expert, whose work focuses on helping people build healthier relationships with their own minds and habits, and Wez Hawes, industry leader, who brings practical, grounded perspective to the human challenges of working in creative industries. Andy Wright, host of Asking For A Friend on Never Not Creative, brought the question to the table on behalf of the community.
Be intentional about your input
Emma's starting point is deceptively simple: choose what you let in. Rather than passively absorbing whatever appears on a screen, she encourages people to get deliberate about what they're exposed to, how long they spend with it, and where it's actually coming from. As she puts it, what you pay attention to grows, so paying attention to sources that activate your nervous system will leave you feeling worse, not better informed. The goal isn't to disengage from the world entirely, it's to engage on your own terms.
Know when you have the capacity for hard news
Emma makes an important distinction between reacting and responding. She is intentional about when she consumes news, choosing moments when she genuinely has the mental capacity to process it, rather than letting a constant feed of information hit her at any and all hours. That shift from reactive to intentional can make a meaningful difference to how regulated you feel across the day.
Train your algorithm for recovery, not dread
Wez adds a brilliantly practical layer to this. Several evenings a week, he sits down and deliberately watches light, funny content, videos of cats, cooking disasters, people doing silly things. The payoff isn't just a laugh. It's that the algorithm starts to learn what you want more of. Feed it calm and funny, and it gives you calm and funny. Feed it outrage and chaos, and you know what happens next.
Neither Emma nor Wez is suggesting you switch off entirely or pretend the world isn't complicated. But small, consistent choices about what you let into your head, and when, can quietly change how steady you feel inside it.
our guests
Industry Leader

Wez Hawes
OUTSIDE IN
Mental Health Expert

Emma Keen
Host

